What Should you know before you say 'I do'?
Before saying ‘I do’ you should make sure that your relationship will stand the test of time. After the fanfare of your Wedding day, you are going to have to face the realities of living with your Wedding partner. The below test was devised by the Institute for Social Invention. It determines the compatibility of your potential Wedding partner.
You need to make sure that you have had a discussion concerning issues in your lives that are important, like children, religion, finance and future goals and ambitions. (0=NOT TRUE, MAYBE=5, 10=VERY TRUE) Question Score /10 1 There is very little conflict in our relationship 2 When there is conflict we handle it very satisfactorily. 3 I find myself agreeing with my partner far more often than disagreeing. 4 If my partner ended up developing a similar character to his/her parents, or became like them in old age, I would be very happy about this. 5 I feel that I can share all my feelings, good and bad, with my partner and that he/she does the same with me. 6 My partner is very similar to me in cultural, social, intellectual and economic background and probably in intelligence. 7 We share similar philosophies of life or spiritual beliefs 8 We share the same sense of humour 9 My partner's health is good, I would describe them as a happy person & I don't think he/she is likely to suffer from depressions, obsessions, eating disorders, excessive anxieties or mental health problems. 10 My partner is sensitive and kind and not selfish or self-obsessed. 11 If I lived in a society where parents arranged marriages for their children, my partner is just the kind of person my parents might have chosen for me. 12 We have a lot of conversational interests in common, I enjoy his/her conversation on a variety of topics and I like his/her friends 13 Judging by track record to date, my partner is monogamous when in a serious relationship. 14 We agree on the extent of freedom within marriage as regards other relationships and I therefore don't think jealousy will be a problem for either of us. 15 Our sexual relationship is extremely good. TOTAL
If you are less than 70% compatible you may well have to struggle hard to maintain a long-term relationship and might be well advised to delay having children for several years until you are sure that the relationship will work out.
Less than 50% compatibility could be a sign not to rush into marriage.
